Breaking Bad Habits: If You Only Knew How Simple It Is

Breaking a bad habit, whether it's smoking, drinking, overeating, doomscrolling, seems hard, right? It's not. It's simpler than you've been led to believe. I know because I've done it. Thousands have done it. And you can too.

But first there's something you need to understand. It's not about directly attacking the habit itself. Only addressing the root cause works, effectively and quickly.

Bad habits don't just appear out of nowhere. They're the product of a life lived without awareness—reacting to stress, avoiding uncomfortable truths, and feeding a false self.

That false self, often called ego, thrives on resentment, fear, and distraction. It traps you in cycles of behaviors that become impossible to escape. It's like driving a car without brakes, careening downhill, while the ego gleefully grabs the wheel pretending to be in control It isn't! You aren't.

Self-Help Fails

The problem is most self-help methods don't fix the brakes. Instead, they give you new distractions, promising calmness or enlightenment while the core problem remains.

Breathwork might help you feel relaxed, but it doesn't address what's broken. Mantras, or repetitive, meaningless sounds, offer a temporary escape, but they leave the ego plenty of room to grow stronger in the shadows. Guided meditations with syrupy voices can lull you into a state of calmness, but calm isn't the same as aware.

Visualization techniques? They feed the ego with fantasies, pulling you further away from reality. Nondualist philosophies let you avoid accountability altogether. If you're "already God," why bother addressing the mess? These approaches might make you feel better for a moment, but they don't make you better. They don't address root problem.

It's Not a Lack of Willpower

Bad habits, obsessions, and addictions are not the problem—they are symptoms. The real problem is the loss of conscious awareness, the separation from your true self and God.

What keeps these patterns alive is not weakness or lack of willpower, but need—being trapped in resentment, thought, and reaction creates a pain requiring the relief of psychotropic behaviors and substances.

The solution isn't effort. It isn't fighting. It isn't replacing one habit with another. It's seeing—truly seeing—what's happening without being pulled into it.

When you awaken to this, the pull of bad habits fades on its own. That's what I teach through Non-Contemplative Meditation. It's not like anything you've tried before because it doesn't rely on rituals, altered states, or clever techniques. Instead, it's about stepping back and noticing your thoughts. Not controlling them. Not analyzing them. Just noticing.

Too Simple. But It Works

And when you practice, adding nothing more to it, no focus, no thoughts, no contemplative effort whatsoever, something remarkable happens. The ego-self begins to weaken. It loses its grip, and the habits it once fostered—the drinking, the smoking, the overeating—begin to fade naturally.

You don't have to fight these urges or distract yourself with mantras or pleasure-stimulating breathing techniques. These habits simply lose the fuel they need to survive.

By cutting off the energy source of resentment and judgment, the false self cannot sustain its influence. This is a liberation that doesn't come from willpower or struggle but simply by stepping into a state of effortless awareness, where destructive patterns dissolve all on their own.

This is how I broke free from my own destructive habits. It's how I've helped thousands of others do the same. And it works because it's not about controlling behavior—it's being changed from within as you automatically alter the way you relate to stress, life, and false self.

Reconnecting with God

That is because when you live aware, you're no longer a slave to impulses. You don't have to rely on distractions to get through the day. You to live with purpose, clarity, and connectivity with your Creator.

This matters because every bad habit or addiction comes from the same source. That is a lack of awareness and a life dominated by ego. The popular methods I've mentioned—breathwork, mantras, syrupy voices—these don't address the issue. In fact, they make matter worse, reinforcing the ego-self's control.

Non-Contemplative Meditation offers a way out. It reconnects you to who you truly are and to God.

Bad habits aren't really the problem—they're symptoms of a spiritual brokenness as I've just described. Fix the root cause, and the symptoms fade and disappear. You stop reacting and start living. It begins with awareness.